Trauma – How it Affects Our Relationships?
What is Trauma?
Renowned Physician and Addiction Expert Dr Gabor Mate with over 4 decades of clinical experience says:
“Trauma is a wound that’s not healed. A wound can present in 2 ways: An open wound – it is raw, it hurts when it’s touched or prodded, knocked or triggered in the case of trauma…
A scar – it is numb, there is hardened tissue, loss of feeling & sensation.
Trauma is not what happens TO US, it’s what happens INSIDE US.”
“You do not attract what you want, you attract who you are”
How Trauma Affects Your Lovelife
(10 Min Video)
Dr. Gabor Mate talks about trauma and love in this video. We learn about his opinions about the medical field, including the gap between the modern medical profession’s understanding of the mind and body, its lack of training in the treatment of trauma, and its lack of attention to the patient’s emotional well-being. Also, they talk about diseases, how they relate to beliefs, and sacred agony.
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Trauma & the “Soma”
So this is what we do in clinic in Somatic Healing and in our Breathwork Group – we release the stored trauma from the body!
Dr Gabor Mate – Wounds – People Become Detached from their Feelings
1 Min
Trauma is a wound
“Trauma presents either as an open wound or a scar that is thick and there is no feeling. It is thick, there is no feeling. People who are traumatically scarred from feelings during age 1-7 they tend to be disconnected from their feelings. They tend to be stuck in emotional states that characterised their development when they were traumatised.”
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Dr Gabor Mate -Trauma Creates Coping Mechanisms
1.5 Min
Many behaviours we label as “personality traits” are actually survival responses to trauma. Dr. Gabor Maté explains how childhood trauma leads to coping patterns like people-pleasing, overworking, emotional suppression and lack of boundaries. When a child receives the message that they’re not enough, they often grow into adults constantly proving their worth – by being overly nice, avoiding conflict, or pushing themselves to exhaustion. These patterns aren’t flaws; they are protective responses developed early in life. Over time, they can affect the nervous system, immune response, and overall well-being. Unresolved trauma can manifest physically, emotionally and mentally; it’s not random. This understanding helps shift blame from the self to the source and opens the path to deeper awareness and transformation.